3 Ways Men Who Loved Me Violated My Consent – And What This Says About Rape Culture

Originally published on Everyday Feminism Magazine on May 30, 2016 and re-published here with their permission. There’s this song that I like by LA-based pop-punk band The Dollyrots called “Watch Me Go (Kiss Me, Kill Me).” In it, cutie pie lead singer Kelly Ogden divulges the tales of multiple men…

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A Reclamation of Our Personal Rights as Victims and Survivors of Sexual Violence

Originally published on EverydayFeminismMagazine on May 15, 2016 By Sian Ferguson and re-published here with their permission One of the most misunderstood effects of sexual assault is that it makes us believe lies. It makes us doubt our value, our worth, and our humanity. Being assaulted by another person – and…

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It’s Time: How to Talk to Your Middle Schooler About Porn

Originally published on Everyday Feminism Magazine on March 16, 2015 by Ellen Friedrichs and re-published here with their permission. Like most people my age, my first exposure to porn predates the Internet. And while the majority of my youthful experiences were pretty tame (like sneaking into my friend Jen’s basement to…

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5 Reasons Shaming Survivors into Reporting Rape Is Counter-Productive

Originally published on Everyday Feminism Magazine on March 2, 2015 by Sian Ferguson and re-published here with their permission. A great number of people believe that reporting rape is the best way to fight rape culture. And I understand why many people would think that way. The logic goes that…

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