Counselor creates ‘Gentleman’s Club’ to teach students life lessons

Originally published on on February 24, 2016 By Meaghan Wallace.

Counselor creates 'Gentleman's Club' to teach students life lessons

CHARLESTON, SC (WCSC) – EDITOR’S NOTE: Since we first brought you this story, Raymond Nelson, the student support specialist who created this group has renamed it. The new title, according to Nelson, is “Boys With Purpose.”

A counselor at a Lowcountry school is helping young boys become young gentlemen.

Every Wednesday nearly 60 students at Memminger Elementary dress for success and meet for the Gentleman’s Club.

Raymond Nelson is the student support specialist at Memminger Elementary in Downtown Charleston. He works with at-risk children and over winter break thought of an idea to teach his students life lessons.

“I was thinking maybe if I have the boys dress for success,” Nelson said. “When was the last time you saw someone fighting in a tuxedo?”

Nelson started The Gentleman’s Club. Their motto is “Look good, feel good, do good.”

Every Wednesday, dozens of first through fifth graders walk into class in their Sunday’s best.

“They like the reaction of walking up to classrooms and say, ‘Oh, you look so nice and handsome,’ they just love it,” Nelson said.

Nelson keeps a stash of donated jackets, vests and ties at school for kids who don’t have their own.

“A lot of my students perform well when they know someone cares about them,” Nelson said.

Each week they discuss a new topic like how to shake hands, make eye contact, open doors and address their elders.

Nelson says because some of the younger boys are still at the age where they consider girls to have cooties, he bases his lessons and examples off how they would treat sisters, mothers and their teachers.

“I know a lot of them struggle because a lot of them don’t have men at home, so I just want them to grow up and think of the things that I teach them,” Nelson said.

At his mother’s request, Nelson himself joined a similar group as a child.

“It helped me to be a better man and I could spread the knowledge to the young boys,” Nelson said.

The Gentleman’s club has been so successful at Memminger that Charleston County School District officials say they want other local schools to begin Gentleman’s programs in their schools.

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